When arranging the funeral, you may not have been sure of the final resting place for the deceased’s ashes. It may therefore be necessary to make final arrangements at the time or allow more time for a decision. There are a number of options and choices in this area and we will be pleased to discuss all possibilities, give advice about local regulations and the costs involved.
What can I do with the Ashes?
Ashes can be scattered, buried or kept. We strongly recommend you allow time to consider all options.
You don’t have to make a decision immediately. Some crematoria will hold ashes for a limited time, for a small charge. We will also be pleased to hold ashes, without charge, for up to three months following a funeral but regret that we do not have facilities to hold them indefinitely.
Distribution of Ashes
This can be;
- In the grounds of the crematorium
- On a family grave
- In your garden
- At a place of fond memories
- In woodland or on moorland
- At sea
In some cases permission may be needed from the appropriate authorities.
You can purchase from us a special sealed scatter tube (available in a large choice of designs) to hold the ashes and help with distribution.
When distributing ashes you may like to consider what words you might like to say. Some people opt to have one or a number of doves released at this point, which we can arrange for you.
You may consider having the ashes dispersed from the sky which you can choose to do so from either a firework, a vintage plane or a meteorological helium filled balloon launched 100, 000 feet above the earth.
Ashes may be buried for a variety of reasons. For instance, families can visit the place of burial; they can put up a memorial at the site, or perhaps place the ashes of more than one family member together. We will be happy to advise on a suitable casket or urn for burial and any memorial you may require.
You may be able to bury ashes;
- Within the grounds of the crematorium
- In a churchyard
- In a grave
- In your garden
In each case, permission should be sought from the appropriate authority. We will be happy to do this on your behalf.
When ashes are scattered or buried in a different churchyard, cemetery or crematorium to the one used for the actual funeral, permission will need to be sought and the appropriate authority will require the Certificate of Cremation provided by the original crematorium.
Some people prefer to keep the ashes and there are a number of options you can choose from in terms of storage or turning some or all of the ashes into keepsakes. For example if you keep them at home you can store them in a casket or urn designed for that purpose. In some cases, this is so that when a spouse or partner dies, the remains of both can be scattered or buried together.
A keepsake is something kept, or given, in memory of somebody. It really can be anything, a photograph, jewellery, an ornament or even a lock of hair (a bit macabre, but very popular in Victorian times). We can advise and organise numerous keepsakes, some are very beautiful and some are very garish, some are amazing, and others are out of this world (literally).
Some ideas include:
- Ashes in Glass – rings, paperweights, glass jewellery and pendants
- Ashes into Fireworks
- Jewellery – silver hearts and pendants including a small amount of ashes
- LifeGem an authentic diamond created from the ashes of a loved one.
- Tribute hearts
- Photo frame with hidden ashes casket
- Metallic keepsakes (small urns)
- Onyx, slate, aluminum, marble, stainless steel keepsakes (small 3 inches high urns in different designs)
Our team will be pleased to discuss all options with you. We want you to be able to make the right decision for you and your family, be that scattering the ashes or placing some of them in a keepsake as a crafted lasting memorial. If you would like details of alternative keepsakes not mentioned, we will be pleased to assist in any way that we can.
Keeping the Ashes at Home
Some people prefer to keep the ashes at home in a casket or urn designed for that purpose. In some cases this is so that when a spouse or partner dies, the remains of both can be scattered or buried together.